3 Questions and an Action Step – probably the shortest blog post I will ever make…

Questions

Here are three questions and an action step, with the potential to effect awesome changes in your life. If you’re anything like me, the answer to the third question is often “no” which simply means I didn’t answer question 1 correctly!

  1. What do you really want out of life? (Think family/friendships/health/contribution/career/finance etc.)
  2. What would it cost you to achieve this? (Think time/finance/sacrifices)
  3. Do you want it enough to pay this price?

If the answer is yes, start paying, in simple daily/weekly instalments.

As always, if you’d like to share your thoughts on any of this tweet me @dfrancisdrums. Use the hashtag #questions

That’s it. Get after it!

 

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How to have a perfect day

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Even those of us who love our jobs usually look forward to the weekend. Why? It’s a chance to unwind, to decompress and to spend time with those who mean the most to us.

It seems counter-intuitive to plan and schedule our weekends too much. We want to feel that we have freedom and spontaneity. We want to go with the flow and relax.

This is understandable, but in my experience a completely unplanned weekend can often result in several hours of cleaning, grocery shopping and laundry, followed by the realisation that we’re too exhausted to do much else. Before you know it, its Sunday evening and you feel like all you’ve done is a few chores. Don’t get me wrong – having clean clothes is important, but is your laundry more important than happiness, your family or your marriage?

Why not pick a weekend in the near future and design, and then live, your perfect day?

Step One – Imagine:

If you had a full 24 hours to do whatever you wanted, how would you spend it?

  • How would you wake up?
  • What would you do first?
  • Where would you go?
  • What would you eat?
  • Who would you spend it with?
  • What would you see?

The only limitation is that this all has to be do-able within 24 hours. Don’t say that you want to wake up on a desert island… unless you already live on one!

Here’s an example to get you started:

  • Wake up relaxed, without an alarm clock.
  • Get up and do my morning routine (meditation, reading, exercise, journalling etc.) while my wife gets ready.
  • Take the dog for a walk on the beach.
  • Go out for breakfast/brunch.
  • Browse at a local bric-a-brac market and some second hand bookshops.
  • Find a nice cafe for some coffee and a snack, whilst flicking through our newly purchased books.
  • Head home to get relax.
  • Go out to a live performance – music, theatre or comedy.
  • Head home and enjoy a relaxing glass of wine/cup of tea on the sofa before bed.

If you’re stuck for ideas, have a go at the exercise in this post first.

Step Two – Plan:

Will anything on the list require any prior planning? You might need to make reservations or buy tickets. You may need to check when your next free day is, and whether or not it coincides with a free day for your partner/friends/family. You may need to save up a little.

Whatever planning is needed, take the time and do it. Make an appointment with yourself in your diary for your perfect day and stick to it. Even if your perfect day is a few weeks in the future, the anticipation of it will bring you joy, just like the day itself will.

Step Three – Do:

This is the fun part – simply enjoy living your perfect day, and of course, give yourself some flexibility. You don’t want to feel like it is a chore, or that you’re clock-watching. If something doesn’t work out, or you run out of time, just adjust as you go.

Step Four – Repeat:

If you’ve had your own perfect day, why not take turns with your partner/family creating and living perfect days? In my family I’ve noticed that a perfect day for one of us, leads to a fun day for all of us. Its a great way to encourage others around us to focus on happiness, use their imaginations and create positive memories.

Enjoy the exercise. If you’d like to share the results please tweet me @dfrancisdrums with some photos from your day(s) using the hashtag #perfectday